One of the most important things in building a good marriage is to keep yourself attractive. When I say that, most people immediately think in terms of physical attractiveness. They think of keeping their body in good shape, their hair neatly fixed, and wearing beautiful clothes.
However, I am talking about keeping yourself inwardly attractive. The Bible tells us that our primary consideration should not be on fixing our hair, or wearing expensive jewelry, or dressing up in fancy clothes, but that we should major on building a beautiful spirit (1 Peter 3:3-4). That doesn’t mean that you should neglect your physical appearance. You need to do the best you can with what you’ve got.
Yet it is possible for a person to have beautiful hair, beautiful jewelry, and beautiful clothes and still have an ugly, ugly spirit. Whenever a person is critical, fault-finding, sour, and nagging, they take away from any physical beauty they may have.
Avoid like a plague a nagging spirit. More than one person has made their marital grave by a series of little digs. Grumbling leads to the death of love.
Somebody has said that most marriages are wrecked by slow leaks, not by blowouts. When we begin to develop unattractive habits and an ugly spirit we will see our marriage disintegrate no matter how attractive we may be physically.