Raising children has been a challenge in all generations. The Bible spends so much time talking about parent-child relationships that we know there were problems even in those days. There are four approaches that parents can take in dealing with their children.
First, you can ignore them. Some parents are so busy climbing the social ladder or the ladder to success that they have no time for their children. They never talk with them. They never pray with their children. They never play with them. They never take them to church. Parents are too busy with their own lives, and their children are then left alone. The Bible warns that “A child left to himself will bring shame to his mother” (Proverbs 29:15, ESV).
Second, you can fear your children. Some parents are so insecure that they are afraid to say no to their children. Their children bluff them by saying, “Everybody is doing it.” And parents do not have the courage to resist. They are so afraid of their children that they cannot give them leadership and guidance.
Third, you can abuse them. You can become so hard and rough on children that you drive them to bitterness. The Bible warns us against this when it says, “Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged” (Colossians 3:21). If you are too hard or critical, they may get to the place where they say, “Nothing I do pleases my parents, so why should I try?” Be reasonable with your children. Temper justice with mercy. Have respect for their individuality. And do not abuse them.
The best way to deal with your children is out of love. There is no substitute for the parent who is both strict and loving. Even this will not eliminate all problems, but nonetheless it is the best way to go. And remember to go that way yourself. Be a consistent example. Blend discipline and reason and you will be a good parent.